There is nothing more powerful than the organ that takes up the 5-inch space between your ears! Most of you out there have probably heard me say this or heard it somewhere - “as soon as something gets a little difficult or uncomfortable your brain tells you it’s time to stop, when in fact your body is capable of doing so much more than your brain tells you it can”
If you push past the initial request from your brain to stop and step outside your comfort zone you can take your training to another level. When you are outside your comfort zone it is so easy to listen to your brain. It’s so easy to quit because what you are doing is HARD!! When in fact if you ignore it and keep moving you will find that your brain is wrong! One more mile, one more step forward, one more rep, one more pull up. whatever it is just do one more, and then next time do one more, so on and so forth. Find your “WHY”, think about the reason you are putting yourself through this workout!! Think about the reason why you choose grilled chicken and broccoli for lunch or dinner 5 times a week instead of a cheeseburger and fries! The next thing you know you will have surpassed your goal and moved on to the next. Keeping a positive mindset, the warrior mindset toward everything in your life is key to making yourself reach goals you never expected. Be the one at work that takes charge of everything and goes above and beyond expectations. Be the one at work that doesn’t let your teammates fail and doesn’t allow them to be lazy either. Be the one at the gym that never quits on a workout because it’s too hard. Push your body daily to its limits and obtain maximum results from your work ethic.
Motivation for my workouts comes from our military men and women. I usually listen to a book while I am working out. I have listened to so many incredibly stories. Like the one about Chris Kyle, the American Sniper. I read this book from cover to cover a few years ago on a flight from Maine to SC. What these average human beings endure during training to become the most elite warriors known to man is mind blowing. This drives me every day to push the limits! Knowing that there are men like this out there making the ultimate sacrifice for me and our way of life motivates me to push myself to the breaking point during my workouts. Adam Brown – Fearless! This man was shot, blown up and overcame a drug addiction before and during his time in the Navy! Can’t Hurt Me by David Goggins is another great read. David and his mother were beaten by his dad practically every day. Always being told how much of a loser he and his brother were and would never amount to anything. He lost 100 lbs in 3 months to be able to get into the BUDS program. He then went on to become a Chief Petty officer when he retired and one of the most elite ultra-athletes in the world. “Be uncommon amongst the uncommon”- David Goggins! Marcus Luttrell, the Lone Survivor. His two books The Lone Survivor and Service were both incredible stories. To me their feats of physical and mental strength are inhuman. These guys put it all out there every day and because of this I feel like every day I must give all of myself to my training and to my clients being the best for them I can be.
I follow many social media fitness pages that are run by Navy, Army and Marine Corps veterans. As I stated, I have read tons of books about these amazing human beings and the obstacles they over come to get where they are and to do what they do every day to protect our freedoms. Understanding that the average human will never be tested even a 10th of 1 percent in life the same way all our service men and women are tested every day during deployments or training up for deployment. Things that I have learned from all the books and audio books is that no matter the physical condition of these men, they would never be successful without the mindset it takes to work through the pain of training to finish the job.
These stories of courage, Honor, Integrity and the pure will to live or die saving teammates motivate me! I envy these men. I should have been a man like this. I should have had the opportunity to die for my country but because of my stupidity and arrogance, I did not. I believe that if I can give one thing back to someone. Pay something forward I can hopefully make up for not doing my duty in the military by giving my all to be the best serviceman I could be. So, for me to feel like I have done something important and useful with the life I have been given, I give myself completely to the service of helping others. I am a trainer, a friend, a confidant, a therapist for some. Whatever I have to do to help others achieve greatness that’s what I will do.
Being a Navy Veteran I am very pro-military. As much as I wanted to follow in the steps of my grandfather going in the military, fighting for my country, possibly dying for my country. I failed to see the longevity of being told what to do on a daily basis by people that weren’t much older than me. I failed to see the importance of what we were doing to protect our way of life. I lacked the obedience and had no structure. I failed at most everything I did back then. I failed at every relationship, every marriage, being responsible for my extreme self-incurred debt. I was an immature arrogant self-absorbed prick! I wanted everything to be handed to me. I wanted to be one of the elites in the military, an Army Ranger or a Navy Seal. (maybe if all goes well you will read about this in my book one day) I never had the chance. I wish I had a chance to say I tried even if I failed. I never had the chance because I failed both my hearing and sight test, however I did pass all my physical tests at the time. I wanted to be tested. I still want to be tested! At 52 years old I feel like I am in better shape than I have ever been and want to be tested. As hard as I train myself or have been trained by others, I can’t remember a time when I have been at a point of exhaustion that I couldn’t keep going if I needed too. However, a mile of burpees on the pavement and 94 degrees out or the 1000 rep workout with a 60# sandbag came pretty fucking close. 😊
As I matured in life, I realized very quickly that I had it made in the NAVY and was a complete fucking idiot for not staying in and doing my best. Life is hard, anyone that isn’t a trust fund baby will agree with me. However even trust fund babies will think life is hard when their internet isn’t working! Life is hard when you don’t really have a plan. When I quit college because of the car accident I was in I should have realized then that the plan I had would never come to fruition. Joining the military was my way out of the Podunk town I lived in and make a better life for myself and have a career in something that mattered. Yes, I fucked that up too.
I use the hashtag #behardtokill often in my Instagram posts. Being Hard to Kill is a state of mind. This phrase is one used by my friends in the fitness community that are either active duty or retired military special forces. What this means to me is not about being a bad ass tough motherfucker. It’s about making yourself hard. Make your body hard. Making your mind hard. Callousing your brain against weakness. This means to me that you have no boundaries. You quit when you are done not when you get tired. #behardtokill is about having the mental capacity to overcome any obstacle in life no matter what it is. To take on extra duties at whatever your job is, to take on challenges headfirst and work at them till it’s finished. Become driven at whatever it is in life you do and do it.
All I think about when I am in the midst of battle with some crazy shit 2-hour long workout I came up with is “I’m not done yet; I am NOT done yet!!”. There are men and women out there making the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom. I think about them every day and knowing they put themselves on the line I put myself on the line for them. Everything I do to myself is for them and for all my folks that train with me. Accountability and leadership for me is about being right in the trenches with your people. A leader is out front helping pull the weight not standing over them barking out orders. Willingly I put myself in the trench every day and can’t wait to do it again today!! There is a difference between having an ego and being confident in your abilities.
Having a positive mindset to be successful in any venue of life is the key. Being a fitness professional, it plays a part in my day, every day. Being the focus of other people’s fitness, I always have to be upbeat, in a good mood, always have to have a smile on my face, always have to console others and make sure they know they are doing a good job. But also, at the same time be rigid and not let them be lazy. If I came to work in a shitty mood or not have a positive attitude it wouldn’t be a good atmosphere for my clients. People feed off your energy and if I am in a bad mood or not feeling positive the energy of the workout is not positive. Most people use a trainer for motivation, accountability and to teach them how to work out effectively. Most people will never push themselves as hard as a trainer will. Most people will work inside their comfort zone and wonder why nothing ever changes. “Don’t blame me for the results you didn’t get for the work you didn’t do!”
In the last 7 years I have worked with some amazing people and still do. Some of them have been with me for almost the entire time. Many come and go as they always do but no matter what, they have always given me their best every time. No matter how much I stress about being self-employed I never let it show. I stress about paying my bills every month no different than most. I hate it when folks don’t show up for class and always wonder if it’s because of me. Something I did or something I said? I often wonder when is it all going to end? When will they all just stop showing up? I am not the most tolerant person when every day I show up for something you paid me for, and you don’t. I know shit happens, the alarm forgets to go off, you hit the off button instead of snooze. I get it, I often want to do the same thing, but I am accountable to you and what kind of coach would I be if I just said “fuck it” they will be ok without me? So, when times get tough Y’all, be tougher!! Grab the challenge by the balls and squeeze the shit out of it and get the fuck after it!!